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On our drive from Toulouse to our first hotel, bunny rabbits came running out of a field to our right. There were more than 20. I came to a full stop and just let them keep running to their hutch to our left. It was amazing, and I'm so grateful that I didn't hit one.

[personal profile] neotoma being so patient pushing the car out of parking spaces. Bless.

Every single meal, but especially the confit de canard and iles flottant of our first night.

It's not my favorite Paris land mark, but seeing the Eiffel Tower so closely was amazing.

The feeling of relief I felt when I realized Notre Dame would be fine.

Having hazelnut/chocolate ice cream from Berthillon.

Get complimented on my French.

Getting to use my little bit of Dutch, briefly.

Now, I know I haven't written much about Iceland -- which was starkly beautiful -- but that's because I managed to slip in the bathtub and sprain my ankle badly enough that I couldn't walk around Reykjavik with [personal profile] neotoma. The bruise on the opposite inner thigh is just now fading.

I do want to go back to Reykjavik at some point. It was stunning.
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It is impossible to go into the caves at Lascaux -- and that's been true since 1963 -- but they have created substitutes over the years. Lascaux IV is the most comprehensive, and it's brilliant.

We decided to go at noon because that was when we could go at our own pace. There were two English language tours in the morning (and two in the afternoon) where we would have had to stay with the group. By arriving at lunchtime, we could get headsets.

The very first area in the cave replica, it talked about a bull to my left. I saw horses, which were also mentioned, but no bull. Then I took a step back and realized that the bull was huge. It was so big (probably 2.5' by just under 4') that my eye rejected it for the smaller horses.

The whole thing was beautiful. The layout got a little claustrophobic, especially with the cane, but I was so glad that I got to see it in context.

There was a room which allowed us to interact with parts of the exhibits in isolation, showing us incised sections that we may have missed or details that don't stand out when it's so far above you.

Before we left we had a cheese plate and a crepe, then went back to the car.

Now this whole "Fabi can't find reverse" meant that [personal profile] neotoma had been helping me out of spots by pushing the car while I had it in neutral and steered. This didn't work once we hit a barred route on our way back -- no suggested detour sign -- and ended up on driveways. We ended up stuck at one house for about half an hour before we made ourselves heard. The gentleman there backed the car up and gave us a better idea of how to get back to where we needed to be (I'd made a reservation at another hotel well in advance including a dinner reservation at the bistro). He also tried to show me what I needed to do to find reverse, but I misunderstood the directions. Also, bless him, he told me I had a very good accent when speaking French. On a wearying afternoon, the compliment meant everything to me.

Two or three towns later, I missed a turn. This time an old man -- probably my age, but we never really see ourselves as old -- called his son who spoke English. They helped us get out of their driveway and back on the correct road, and this time when I was shown how to get the car into reverse, it clicked.

We had a nice evening in a room at the top of a flight of steep stairs, and the dinner at the bistro was nice. There were also some very well behaved dogs at the bistro.

The following morning, after a good buffet breakfast, the woman at the front desk helped us find our way to the autoroute. She wrote down the name of each town we needed where a shift from country road D2 to country road D734 (or whatever the actual route numbers were) would take place. There must have been 8 names. This was where [personal profile] neotoma and I cheered when we found a country road wide enough that there were lines painted on it. I still wasn't going anywhere near 80 kph.

We found the autoroute -- which was a toll road (we took it and prayed it took credit card) -- and spent most of the rest of the drive doing 130 kph (~80 mph). We made it to Toulouse in time for our train to Narbonne. After that we took the "poor man's TGV" back to Paris. They announced when we were going to our top speed of 320 kph (~199 mph), and the countryside passed by swiftly.
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[personal profile] neotoma and I got up early on the Wednesday, found a way to extract our tickets from the kiosks and went from Paris Montparnasse to Toulouse Matabiau. Once there we picked up our very small car.

It took a few minutes for me to realize that I kept putting the car into third gear rather than first, but after the first hour, the fact that it had been 30+ years since I'd driven stick shift wasn't a huge problem. However, I will say that if I see one more traffic circle, I may burst into tears.

Getting out of Toulouse was one traffic circle after another. Then we hit the country roads. First of all, I would like to say that the Dordogne is every bit as beautiful as everyone says. We had glorious sunny weather as we hit the lovely vistas of plowed and planted fields with hills, forest, and poplar wind breaks everywhere we looked.

On the other hand, [personal profile] neotoma learned that I will swear at the car if it's not cooperating (see the 3rd gear vs 1st gear issue), and we both learned that the Dordogne has more hills and curves than the average roller coaster. The posted speed limit for most of it -- unless we were actually going through one of the beautiful 16th or 17th century towns -- was 80 kph (~50 mph). There was no way that I could handle any car at that speed on narrow roads with no shoulders and more curves than Marilyn Monroe. At one point on our second or third day of driving, we actually cheered because we'd finally found a road wide enough to have lane markings.

We found a decent hotel for Wednesday evening, but had some upset because the GPS on neotoma's phone still said we were 2 hours away from Lascaux. It had told us we were 2.5 hours from Lascaux when we first got in the car and we'd been driving for three hours.

The hoteliers told us we were only about 30 minutes away, which proved reasonably accurate when we left the next day. It was a great relief.

France

May. 14th, 2025 11:07 am
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[personal profile] neotoma and I spent 5 May-10 May in France. We also had 11 May in Iceland which [personal profile] neotoma got to see more of than I did. Overall, I think it was a good trip. It was certainly a needed distraction for me from a year which had way too much death in it. [personal profile] neotoma was in a similar boat, so travel seemed like a good thing.

Once I've downloaded my pictures -- I didn't take many -- I'll have a post with them in it. For right now, It's just words.

Our hotel in Paris was clean and conveniently located. We had tickets for a boat tour up the Seine and I invited my friend, Elainasaunt, who lives in Paris to join us. The Paris Metro was as convenient as ever and got us to the Trocadero stop, right by the Eiffel Tower. We were close enough to see the elevator cars do their funicular thing up the leg of the tower where we caught our boat.

After some minor kerfuffle where the boat operators conferred and decided our Expedia purchased tickets were good, we saw Elainasaunt in the distance and got on the boat. We had dressed relatively warmly (I was in a turtleneck that was heavy cotton with about 15% wool content) so chose the top deck. It was a lovely evening, nowhere near sunset and the sights of the city were clear. The music was a little loud, but Elainasaunt kept up a running commentary of what we were seeing. Once I noticed that my fingers were going a bit blue, I asked if we could go in, and the view from the lower deck wasn't as good.

After grabbing our respective metros home, [personal profile] neotoma and I searched for sustenance. There was a little square about a block from the hotel which had several restaurants. Two were very crowded cafes. Two were pizza/pasta joints which just didn't seem right in Paris, and the last one was a small bistro which said they could accommodate us.

[personal profile] neotoma had a pork roulade with mashed potatoes. I had duck confit with roasted potatoes (and the duck was perfect that evening). For dessert, the maitresse (I don't know if she owned the place, but she referred to her chef and her pastry chef, so quite possibly) let us know there was a special of floating island with pistachios. [personal profile] neotoma had never had floating island and it's my favorite dessert. There was only one portion left, but it was more than enough for us to split. It was really delicious.

We also discovered on our walk from the metro that we were pretty close to Notre Dame, so the next day we went. The lines were huge. Too big. The lines for the Sainte Chapelle were also very long. However, there were no lines to speak of for the Memorial des Martyrs de la Deportations. I highly recommend the Wikipedia page which I can't link to because the accent marks mess up the link.

This is part of a small park behind Notre Dame. It honors those, both Jewish and not, who were deported to the work camps in Germany during WWII. It's grey cement with narrow stairways in and out of it. There's one small, barred window low on one wall. Behind is a round room with lists of the camps and quotations, including "Forgive, but never Forget" over the exit door. We went upstairs and explored the two gallery rooms which had pictures, letters, and small mementos of Bergen-Belsen. In all, we spent about an hour there.

We went out to dinner with Elainasaunt again at a small bistrot on the Ile St. Louis, facing the back of Notre Dame. The dinner was very good.

We left Paris early the next morning and went to Toulouse. That saga will be covered tomorrow.

Success!

May. 9th, 2025 11:01 pm
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We are back in Paris, having gone to Toulouse and from there to Lascaux IV. The countryside was beautiful. The driving... More will be said when I am not typing with one finger.

In Paris

May. 6th, 2025 08:09 am
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We are supposed to go to la Vallee de la Vezeres tomorrow (Toulouse, then drive north to Lascaux) but there are train strikes. They're supposed to get worse through the week. *le sigh
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Siderea posted last week asking how people learned the basics of the Constitution/U.S. Government and at what age. I followed up with an email.

Now I went to 5th grade, for the second time, at a Catholic School in Arlington. We weren't Catholic, so my folks asked if Sis and I could be excused from those classes. I was allowed to go the library, and I found a series of biographies aimed at 8-12 year olds. I could read one in an hour and a half. As I got older, I realized they were mostly fiction, but based around typical things a child-teenager would do in that time frame, for their gender, for their economic status. Some things were reasonably accurate to the person, especially if they'd written an autobiography, but it was mostly best guess fiction to get kids interested in history.

Being me, I looked on Amazon to see if the series was still printed. It is. Some of the ones I read are no longer for sale except as antiques (one was going for $139), mostly the ones around the Confederacy. Many new ones have been written. There are two that I'm not certain if I read them: Jim Thorpe and Helen Keller. I know I read something about Jim Thorpe before I was in 7th grade, but I'm not certain it was this series. I know I read The Story of My Life by Helen Keller in either 5th or 6th grade, but I'm uncertain if the reason I read it was because I'd read the Childhood of Famous Americans book about her first.

I've marked people of color with an asterisk. There are more men than women, but the range of women was pretty wide.

When possible, my parents would reinforce something I'd read. For instance, they took me to see Clara Barton's house just outside of DC. Our trip to Philadelphia when I was 11-ish may have been because I'd read about so many of the participants of the Second Continental Congress.

Most of the Confederate ones seem to have quietly fallen off the modern list (Thank $deity). But there's still Robert E. Lee.

“List” )
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The list of Colleges and Universities signing onto the letter is growing. Northeastern finally made it. Boston College still hasn't signed, though I've seen many more Catholic Schools join. Many of the California UCs and State Colleges have joined, but Stanford is missing. I must admit that it being the school where so many tech bros went to learn from the inventor of the transistor, that I'm afraid Elon Musk has had influence there.

George Washington University signed which means the only consortium college missing is Howard. I really hope the HBCUs are planning their own statement.

Duke notwithstanding -- as an "other Ivy" with a pre-eminent law school, they were kind of a given -- the only two schools that I recognize as being part of the Old South, in my mind below the southern border of Virginia, are Agnes Scott College and Carolina Christian College. I'm impressed with how many Virginia schools have signed on, but still bummed that Virginia Tech, where my paternal uncle used to teach, University of Richmond and Hampton College, where my father, great aunt, and grandfather all did their undergraduate degrees, and Longwood, where Sis went for her undergrad, are not signatories. But, I'm still excited that Hollins was one of the originals. Go Great-Great-Grandma!

I don't pretend to have a comprehensive knowledge of every university or college in the country, so if anyone recognizes a name from Kentucky, Missouri, West Virginia, Mississippi, Alabama, South Carolina, Florida (Stetson has now signed), or Texas, please let me know. Agnes Scott got Georgia on the list, but it's the only name I recognize so far.

ETA: the strike throughs. I'm glad BC joined.

ETA2: University of Richmond has signed!!!
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Statement from the Association of American Colleges and Universities.

Could the wording be stronger? Yes. Is it still a good first step? Absolutely.

There are some disappointments. The only University of California branch signing is at Riverside. Duke signed, but I didn't see Stanford. No one expected Columbia to sign, and they didn't, but I was surprised not to see Dartmouth joining with the other Ivies.

But I was also gratified to see American University (Dad for M.A. and Ph.D, me for one year), University of Maryland (me), Boston University (Sis for M.S., Dad as a professor, me as an administrator). Dad's undergraduate school, University of Richmond, and Sis's undergraduate school, Longwood, were not signatories.

University of Virginia may cover Longwood as it's part of the Commonwealth's University system, but I'm doubtful. I was shocked that Northeastern and Emerson didn't join. And somewhat taken aback that I didn't recognize the name of a single HBCU. I know that many black influencers refused to participate -- and encouraged their followers not to participate -- in the April 5 marches because white folks got them into this mess, so there may be an aspect of that. I would hope that the HBCUs will issue their own letter.

The single name that thrilled me the most, though, was Hollins University. It's a private women's college founded under the name Valley Union Seminary in Botetourt Springs, VA in 1841. By the time my great-great-grandmother graduated, it was known as the Hollins Institute. She won a commendation for French, and I still have the French language Bible she was awarded.

The women's colleges were well represented on the list. The only one of the old Seven Sisters whose name I didn't find was Barnard.

I don't know if other Universities can become signatories. It took a year-ish to get all the names on the Declaration of Independence, so I can hope. If it's possible and you don't see the name of your school(s), encourage them to sign. We need to stand together.

ETA: They are accepting signatures and quite a few have added them. MECURTIN: Georgetown has signed. And for my Boston peeps, Emerson has signed. I'm also excited by some of the community colleges that have signed. They're taking a risk. So seeing that Bunker Hill Community College is now on the list makes me very happy.

I was also assuming that the Heidelberg College was somewhere in the U.S., but now I think it's Heidelberg in Germany. Notre Dame de Namur in Belgium has signed.
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The man made mistakes. No one will deny that. But, he later admitted to discounting one group of Church abuse survivors because they were accusing a friend of his. After he saw the evidence, he made a formal public apology to them and had a private audience with them while he was visiting their home country. He was as open as a Pontiff can be about accepting LGBTQIA people as human beings which was a step in the right direction and something a later pope can build on.

He emphasized that life was sacred and told governments not to condemn women who made the choice to abort, but rather to provide better care to them and their children so that the choice might not need to be made. And, like John Paul II, he said, if life is sacred, then the death penalty has got to go. As someone who has been viscerally anti-death penalty at least since I saw the movie Oliver at age 6 or 7, this made me happy even as it outraged many conservative Catholics, especially here in the U.S.

I am not Catholic. I did spend 4 years in Catholic school and took the religion classes. This is deep for world Catholics and we had best hope that we again get a pastoral pope and not an academic/policy pope like Benedict.

In my post from March of 2013, I referred to Pope Francis as a transitional Pope: an Italian, but one from the new world, older so he probably couldn't have too much effect on policy. Instead, he proved to be a robust man who reigned for 13 years. In my opinion, he was a good man for his times, and I hope he's prepared the way for the next pope to be more responsive to the worldwide congregation he'll serve.

If you're interested in the traditions and practicalities for the next few weeks, allow me to recommend the books (and films) of Conclave by Robert Harris which covers the current method for papal election. John Paul renounced the regalia of the papacy. John Paul II expanded the college of cardinals and made changes to the voting pool. If you're over 80, you are still a Prince of the Church, but you have no voice in the conclave. For the older method -- a tradition that goes back at least 500 years and probably longer -- I recommend The Shoes of the Fisherman by Morris West. John Paul II was the last pope to be elected that way. It's also a good read for those who don't remember the Cold War as the tensions of that time come through well.

ETA: Is anyone else worried about J.D. Vance insisting on meeting with Pope Francis yesterday? I mean, the smell of brimstone might have killed him.
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I am not good at this, but I hope that I'll have a crop of something by the end of the summer.

The raised bed exists, but I need more soil before I can plant anything. In Georgia, that means I'm already too late for peas. I'll have at least a few beans of various types though (yard long, lima beans, and October beans) if I'm not completely cack-handed. Okra should still grow. Lettuces. It's a small bed, but if I grid it correctly, it should give us quite a bit for late summer and early autumn. I hope to get the artichoke planted, but I know that I can't expect anything until next summer at the earliest and more likely the summer after that.

In large planters, I have a dwarf Meyer lemon tree and a dwarf finger lime, both of which are self fertilizing.

The Arbor Day Foundation trees arrived on Thursday and the gardener planted them on Friday. Two Kiefer pear trees and two American hazelnuts have been planted. We may get the hazels next year. The pears are like the artichoke, probably two years out.

The front has had the iris, croci, and other bulbs/rhizomes planted. The iris and tuberose should come up this year. They'll be a bit sparse, but they'll all fill in as the years go by. The saffron crocus will be up in the fall and the rest of the bulbs will show up next spring.

One of the Arbor Day Foundation trees has been planted in the front yard. It's a pink dogwood, the one sign of spring I missed when I lived in Europe. Then there are two lilac bushes. They're one of the few types that can even survive in this growing zone, so I hope that I'll have the sweet scent next spring, but more than anything else, the lilacs are a crap shoot. Several roses have been planted on the other side of the front door, all of them scent roses, all of them different heights with different bloom times.

This is my way of protecting my family. Next year, I'll know what I'm doing and can start another raised bed and one of the big bags for potatoes.

Nicky (male dog) had a cyst removed this week. I thought the scar would be about two inches. It's closer to five. Fortunately, it's on a part of his back that he can't reach, so we only put him in the cone of shame (it's really an inflatable donut) when we're not around to keep an eye on him.

Sis turned 61 yesterday. Our dinner reservations were changed by the restaurant from last night to tonight.

Recipe?

Apr. 15th, 2025 10:03 pm
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Does anyone have old Marion's hot cross buns recipe? I think it's in her cookbook, but my copy is still in a box somewhere until the library is built.

Washington

Mar. 31st, 2025 03:44 pm
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The Guardian is reporting that Republicans are exerting control over Washington, D.C.

That would be nothing new. When Republicans control both houses of congress they switch from bamboo utensils and compostable take out containers in the cafeteria and switch the congressional power plant -- which is only on in an emergency -- from natural gas to coal. The rates of asthma and elderly deaths in SW DC went up when the Republicans controlled congress and there was a snow storm. They also tend to take away money for needle exchange programs in a city where 1 out of 20 adults -- approximately 5% of the population -- was HIV positive in 2016.

I would like to take exception to one item in the article. It states that "It was unclear how the language approving Washington DC’s budget was removed from the federal spending bill, but just after it passed the Senate, the Republican Susan Collins described the omission as “a mistake”, and the chamber unanimously passed her legislation to fix it."

It wasn't a mistake. The lists that I'm still on for DC sent out a plea for people to call any representative or senator they could to beg them not to cut the budget for DC. Since I'm now a Georgia resident, I called both Senators and my Representative and asked that the DC budget not be cut.

The 2018 Federal Tax revenue numbers -- the most recent ones I could quickly find that included the District of Columbia -- showed that Alaska, Montana, North Dakota, Vermont, and Wyoming combined paid 27,443,756,000. The District alone paid 28,443,717,000.

Let's be clear: this spending bill was NOT regulating federal monies. It was dictating how DC was allowed to spend its own "state" tax money. It will create illness, illiteracy, and unemployment because the monies are being take from healthcare, public schools, and the Metro system, aka how most of the Greater Washington Area gets to work.

The current president -- and if I accept the constitution, I must accept that he is my president -- says he wants to make the District "safe, beautiful, and prosperous." Prosperous? There are 17 states between DC and North Dakota, the most prosperous of the states I listed. Safe? The murder rates have been going down for years. This budget cut is likely to raise the rate of robbery and car theft, based on my experiences on the ANC and how the rates fluctuate with the economy. Beautiful? I've lived in or visited some of the cities widely considered the most beautiful in the world. DC beats them thanks to L'Enfant and Banneker's plans for city vistas. There are U.S. cities that have some gorgeous views, including Boston and San Francisco, but they don't have as many points of beauty, in my opinion, as the District of Columbia.

One item that I didn't find covered in the Guardian article is funding for clean-up after parades and protests. When I first lived in the District, Congress appropriated enough federal money to help cover security and clean-up for most public events to last from January to September. Anything in the autumn came out of DC's funding. Bear in mind, there are not enough Federal police or park rangers to cover this and the military isn't allowed to do it. Metropolitan Police officers are the main coverage for these events. DC Public Works empties the trash, cleans up the routes, etc. At the beginning of 2017, before Trump's inauguration, the newly Republican congress cut that funding so that DC picks up the tab for safety and clean-up from March.

This is important. It may not be high on your radar if you have no personal connection to the District, but if, as so many tourists said, "it's our city, too," then these issues need to be addressed.

The District was the last city in the country to be desegregated because Congress liked segregation. Our schools and families suffered greatly from AIDS in the 1980s because the homophobes also tended to damn IV drug users. And yet we built a rainy day fund that allowed us to process unemployment during COVID faster than any state in the union -- bear in mind that Vermont and Wyoming have fewer people than the District. This is a huge thing we managed during a pandemic. But DC is being punished for being Black, predominantly Democrat, and generally vocal about fairness.
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Sis only has a one week break between the winter and spring quarters. We took the dogs to the kennel for two days and drove to Jeckyll Island. We did a couple of getaways there with Mom. Sis and I have been once, and I went on my own while the move was happening.

We stayed in a hotel/motel with a walkway to the beach. It was much less expensive than any place else, but it was still a good room with a little patio where I could sit outside and read while Sis watched TV.

Since the Island is a state park, the amount of development has been limited. St. Simon's, the neighboring Island, is crowded beyond belief, but Jeckyll is quiet.

We went on a one hour trail ride which used muscles that I hadn't used in nearly 40 years. I miss riding, proper riding, but I haven't done it since I left Belgium in 1989.

We also did some miniature golf. Sis is still mad that I won. She's athletic -- or was when younger -- and very competitive. It's always been a given that she can beat me at anything with a ball (I used to be better than she was at free throws, but the net has been raised since my day so that's no longer true). She's not exactly mad, and she knows it's impossible to cheat, but it's driving her crazy that I won. This is especially true because she managed 2 holes in one.

We laughed a lot. Walked on the beach every day. Had good seafood and fish. And we went on the dolphin boat again and saw many, many dolphins. They're wonderful.

Sis and I are starting to swim two days a week. I hope by next week to be able to add some strength training at the little PAR course a block away. Sis is still recovering from her shoulder surgery several months ago. She's doing as much strength training as she can at PT.

My City

Mar. 3rd, 2025 01:48 pm
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I have cities I visit. I have cities in which I've lived and been happy; that doesn't make them one of "my cities." Boston is an example. I have more friends there than anywhere else in the country. It feels comfortable when I'm there. The Charles is beautiful. My mental map for walking is good. But it's not "my city." London is similar for me. I know it well. Some of the best experiences of my life were there, but it was never home.

DC is. Brussels is. Mannheim is.

I only lived in Mannheim for about 18 months. It's not as pretty as Heidelberg. Its University is younger than I am. It's not a major center anymore. And its street grid/address system confuses many, many people -- though I loved it. (I lived at J7.)

Mannheim City Center

Today, someone committed vehicular manslaughter (at least) in the city center. Several people, per the Guardian, have been injured, too. The driver sped up a pedestrian street to the heart of the city.

I used to catch the tram to my office near K1. I would buy a pastry at the bakery if I wasn't running late and stop for my groceries on the way home. On Wednesday, I went to the cafe on the top floor of the local department store and had apricot germknoedel mit zimt. They had the traditional type, too, but I liked apricot.

The area where the pedestrians were run down is the Parade Platz in the center, where the farmer's market was held on Saturday. They had the most beautiful cauliflower, I'd ever seen. Every Sunday I would walk the mile to the train station to buy The Observer and a schnecke pastry for breakfast. I'd often repeat the walk in the late afternoon to have Chinese food at a restaurant near the station.

The Rhein runs on one side of Mannheim. The Neckar runs into it. I still won't buy anything from BASF because they once poisoned the Rhein while I lived there.

It was only 18 months. I wasn't always happy there, but I loved my apartment. I loved my walks. I loved my city.

This is the third time in a decade that one of my cities has been attacked. Brussels was in March of 2016. DC was attacked on January 6, 2021. And now a senseless attack in Mannheim.

These are my cities.
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After being released from the emergency room, I found a hotel for the night. I slept late -- checked out on time, but I was glad I found a hotel with noon checkout rather than 11 a.m. -- and then drove for 40 minutes to a Jewish Deli just outside of Charlotte.

[n.b., Savannah, GA hosts the oldest continuous Jewish congregation in the U.S., Mickve Israel, but doesn't have a single real Deli. I've been craving Matzoh ball soup for months. Finding out that there was a decent deli in Charlotte meant the world. For the record, there is an older synagogue in Rhode Island, but they fizzled out and reconstituted rather than existing continuously.]

They had Cel-Ray soda. The turkey reuben was made with a turkey pastrami. There was good old-fashioned cucumber salad to go with it. I got two quarts of Matzoh ball soup to go. They had sturgeon by the pound. Next time, I'm getting sturgeon. Or kippered salmon.

I was later than I'd hoped getting home, mostly because my GPS told me to keep left when I needed a right lane exit at the Talmadge bridge in Savannah, but it was otherwise uneventful. I took a break at the two hour mark. It was pretty good.

Today has mostly been spent in bed. I know I should exercise. I know I should write or open boxes or do anything, but I mostly slept. I had a little phone argument with Sis. She doesn't want to put in solar power because she felt it didn't do anything for them in CA. I pointed out that Dad would have gotten the tax credit; this time she will. I also pointed out that they were never without power in CA. We've already had 9 days sans electricity and with hurricane season and tornados on the rise, I think this is necessary. I'm also worried about what tariffs with Canada will do to the oil supply. Keep fingers crossed on this.

It's been rough emotionally for the past year. Mom died on a Saturday, but it was just before 29 February, so everything is offset by two days instead of just one.

Last year, on February 15, the Thursday before her death, a dear friend of hers, the only one who could come and whom Mom wanted to see, came to visit. She and her SO went in and talked with Mom in the morning and let me have a long walk that I desperately needed. They came back in the afternoon, but Mom was non-verbal. Still understanding what was going on. They asked about her time as a stewardess and she squeezed their hand when United was mentioned. They'd brought us a lovely coffee cake, too.

This year, on Thursday, the four of us are going out to dinner at a restaurant Mom liked. It's not exactly a year, but it feels like it because it's the Thursday again. They've been to visit family in Florida. On the way down, they stopped at Beaufort National Cemetery and found Mom and Dad's grave. We're a stop on the way back.
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I'm in the emergency room. I had overwhelming chest pain while driving. Will let everyone know more later.

Eta: just had a CAT scan. [I think Texaco Mike will do the reading.] They're more concerned about a possible pulmonary embolism than a heart attack. I should probably mention that Dad had TB.

Eta2: I am ensconced in a hotel. 7 hours in ER. No scarring on my lungs. No calcification in my heart. I already have a Primary Care appoint in 2 weeks, which I've been told is soon enough for a follow-up. I have a heavy duty Pepcid prescription.
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I have a temporary phone solution for the weekend and a more permanent one for Monday.

I'm traveling to Blacksburg tomorrow and should be at the hotel by 7. The funeral is at 1 pm on Friday, and I drive back on Sunday.

Hugs to all.
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I have five cousins on my father's side of the family; the three around my age are by Uncle's first wife. His only daughter is a year older than Sis and just lost her elder son. My oldest cousin, whom I will call Sonny, died this morning never having left the hospital after his admission for extremely low sodium, pneumonia, strep, and flu.

Cousine barely made it from the west coast in time to say goodbye. The brother between her and Sonny will get there tonight.

Sonny went into the navy at 18. He was discharged for mental health by the time he was 20. Schizophrenia runs on his mother's side of the family. Ships in the 1970s were easy to find drugs on. I knew about "drug-induced schizophrenia" (I'm pretty sure it would be called something else these days) from the time I was 13.

Sonny has been in and out of V.A. and charity facilities since he was released from the military. Uncle and, later, Cousine have looked after his finances so that it was virtually impossible for him to score drugs -- other than cigarettes -- and so that, unlike many of his contemporaries, he always had a roof over his head.

We can say that he smoked himself to death. It's true. We can say that he might have been treated differently if schizophrenia were better understood or if his family had realized he was prodromal when he enlisted. That's also true.

I saw him three years ago, for about five minutes, when we went to Blacksburg for Thanksgiving. The last I saw him prior to that was 1972.

This post brought to you by bronchitis! I stopped coughing two days ago, but my ribs hurt. The doctor has put me on three drugs, plus two shots and a nebulizer before I leave her office. If I'd waited until next week to be seen, it would have been pneumonia no matter how many preventive jabs I've had.

ETA: The memorial service is on Friday. Sis has midterms, so I'll drive up Thursday, hopefully with a cell phone.

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