AAARRRRGGGH!!!!

[fabrisse]

First of all, I've talked with friends today. I'm fine.

Secondly, I answered all the questions for hospice care, signed the paperwork, and cried a little.

Thirdly, I was left alone for two hours with a sundowning Alzheimer's patient.

Fourthly, Sis informed me that she had to get work done this weekend and everything to do with getting Mom home from the hospital including organizing neighbors to help us move some furniture, arranging delivery of the medical products we'll need, and beginning to care for Mom would be on me because she just won't have time.

I repeat: AAARRRGGGH!!!!

Comments

[sef1029]

Oh, all my sympathy for your endurance of this awful stage of life. There's no good answer to any of the big questions about what is best for you, your mom, your sister...anything. And there's no happy ending. It's dreadful and exhausting.

Please be kind to yourself. Be open to help and changes in direction. And yes, keep talking to friends. I do feel for you.

[mecurtin]

Call any time, no restrictions.

[kathmandu]

Wow, yes, that is an ARGGH situation.

Best wishes to you.

[matildalucet]

Does it help any if I AAARRRGGGH!!!! with you? There's not a lot I can do at this distance, but I can shout if it helps. :-).

BIL's wife ended up with a bunch of this with my late MIL. We were too far away to do much other than by phone and weekend visits, and eventually the dementia made that was not helpful any more. It is a job, even if the pay sucks. I see you.