Does it help any if I AAARRRGGGH!!!! with you? There's not a lot I can do at this distance, but I can shout if it helps. :-).

BIL's wife ended up with a bunch of this with my late MIL. We were too far away to do much other than by phone and weekend visits, and eventually the dementia made that was not helpful any more. It is a job, even if the pay sucks. I see you.