Oh, dear. Is there any way to mitigate the dogs snoring problem? Getting proper sleep is so important.
I know that a stroke means she has certain memory issues, but I don't feel safe leaving Mom to have her fortnightly nurse's check or weekly PT on her own. It's not that I don't trust them. It's that I can't trust Mom to remember things they need to know -- like whether she's fallen -- if I'm not there to be the family's external storage drive.
Mom also complains that I'm a tattletale or correct her too much. If she's forgetting to tell the doctor something, I will interject. It's worse if, as she's implying, she might be deliberately hiding some of her problems from them.
There's, like, zero chance she's NOT trying to conceal things from her treaters. First of all everybody lies to their treaters. In the words of my psychopathology professor, "Patients lie. Haven't any of you people seen House?" Second and third, proud and elderly are each independently multipliers on the tendency.
Actual conversation between me and D in front of her geropsychiatrist:
Me: The doctor's saying she wants you off this medication because it could make you fall.
D: I don't fall! I've never fallen!
Me: *momentarily speechless* ...That would be so much more convincing coming from someone without a natty forehead scar from face-planting in Stop and Shop. How many stitches was that?
D was not very pleased with me for saying that in front of one of her doctors. (Like the ER visit wasn't right therein the EHR!)
Which is why I demanded her treaters provide us with a way of getting them important info in writing before meeting with her. Some of them had a MyChart set-up and I would use it to email them in advance of her appointments. That way I didn't have to be available to every one of her medical appointments. Might something like that be a help?
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I know that a stroke means she has certain memory issues, but I don't feel safe leaving Mom to have her fortnightly nurse's check or weekly PT on her own. It's not that I don't trust them. It's that I can't trust Mom to remember things they need to know -- like whether she's fallen -- if I'm not there to be the family's external storage drive.
Mom also complains that I'm a tattletale or correct her too much. If she's forgetting to tell the doctor something, I will interject. It's worse if, as she's implying, she might be deliberately hiding some of her problems from them.
There's, like, zero chance she's NOT trying to conceal things from her treaters. First of all everybody lies to their treaters. In the words of my psychopathology professor, "Patients lie. Haven't any of you people seen House?" Second and third, proud and elderly are each independently multipliers on the tendency.
Actual conversation between me and D in front of her geropsychiatrist:
Me: The doctor's saying she wants you off this medication because it could make you fall.
D: I don't fall! I've never fallen!
Me: *momentarily speechless* ...That would be so much more convincing coming from someone without a natty forehead scar from face-planting in Stop and Shop. How many stitches was that?
D was not very pleased with me for saying that in front of one of her doctors. (Like the ER visit wasn't right therein the EHR!)
Which is why I demanded her treaters provide us with a way of getting them important info in writing before meeting with her. Some of them had a MyChart set-up and I would use it to email them in advance of her appointments. That way I didn't have to be available to every one of her medical appointments. Might something like that be a help?